Workplace relationships: How to Improve and Strengthen them
Have you ever wondered why some relationships flourish while others falter? Whether at work or beyond, understanding what influences our connections with others can help shape more positive interactions. By exploring how our perceptions of the past, present, and future impact these relationships, we can create healthier dynamics.
Reflecting on the Past
Think of a specific relationship you have, perhaps with a colleague, a supervisor, or even someone outside of work. It could be a connection that's thriving, one that's just neutral, or maybe even a challenging one. Now, reflect on the history you share with this person.
Consider what past events have shaped your current view of this relationship. Do you share positive memories, or have there been misunderstandings? Maybe this person supported you during a tough time, or perhaps you feel they let you down. The experiences you've shared—good or bad—have inevitably shaped your current interactions with them.
Our past experiences influence not just how we feel but also how we behave in future interactions. If there were past conflicts, they might make you guarded. On the other hand, positive experiences can create a foundation of trust. These past perceptions will naturally color your next conversation, even if you don’t realize it.
Focusing on the Present
Now, keep this person in mind and imagine you have a meeting with them—whether it’s in person, over a video call, or even through email. How does your past experience with them influence your current approach? Are you feeling open and cooperative, or do you find yourself holding back, perhaps bracing for conflict?
As humans, we're wired for self-preservation. When we anticipate potential conflict, we might instinctively react with a defensive mindset. But here's the good news: we always have a choice in how we respond. Our past doesn't have to dictate our present.
What if, instead of letting past conflicts guide your behavior, you chose to approach the interaction with curiosity and openness? By consciously shifting your mindset, you can start to explore the motivations behind the other person's actions and begin to rebuild trust.
Choosing New Behaviours
Every interaction is a choice. Listening attentively, showing empathy, and being open to influence are behaviours that can change the course of a conversation. Sometimes, these may not come naturally, especially if past experiences have conditioned us to be guarded. However, by choosing to act differently, you can set a new tone for the relationship.
"Behavior breeds behavior" is a powerful concept. Imagine how the relationship could change if you actively choose to be present in the moment, free from past biases. How would your colleague respond if you demonstrated genuine curiosity about their perspective? By focusing on understanding their current motivations and goals, you may notice a shift in their behavior toward you as well.
Looking to the Future
Relationships are not static—they evolve with every interaction. A single conversation can either strengthen your bond or widen the gap between you. Of course, both parties must be willing to engage, but it often takes one person to lead the way.
It's true that change requires courage. Extending an olive branch or choosing to let go of past grievances can be challenging, especially if it feels safer to keep your distance. But when teamwork and collaboration are crucial for success, is staying divided truly an option?
By viewing your relationships through the lens of the past, present, and future, you gain a more holistic understanding of how to move forward. Relationships may not transform overnight, but with a bit of courage and curiosity, they can certainly take a positive turn.
In the end, the choice is yours: will you hold onto past grievances, or will you take the first step toward building a stronger, more collaborative relationship?
